What objectively leads to success and what is subjective opinion regarding success? There’s a lot of contradictory information out there and much of it is purely subjective. Someone might have experienced a bit of success and he might start to think that just because he got successful, he thinks he can attract success every time. He thinks he can teach others how to attract success and starts to write books about it, sharing so called success principles, or success tools, or success strategies or paths to success! But actually these tactics work just for him, in his context, in his situation and help nobody else. They’re subjective success criteria that are not universal. Universal principles of success are those that work for anyone, anywhere at any time.
Let’s look at some contradictory beliefs out there which are subjective beliefs and not objective realities about how to use the law of attraction to be successful in life. Some might say to find success, you need to find what delights you, while others might opine that to find success, you need to find what delights your customers and do that instead. Still others might say that to find success, you need to lead a life with no commitments—no spouse, no children, no family—that way you’ll find plenty of time for yourself and be able to do what you really want to do. There will be those who say that on the contrary, having a spouse, children and large family will fill your life with love and compassion, and inspire you to do greater things.
Some others are focused on just hard work and believe that the only way to attract success is to keep working harder and harder; everything else is but a dream. Those who contradict them believe that if you only focus on work, you won’t be able to recognize the gifts that the universe has in store for you; so do less, work less, and receive more. Many people are apt to believe that if you gain recognition and fame and are widely known, that amounts to success. There are their counterparts who believe success is an inner state of happiness and has nothing to do with external fortune, fame or acknowledgement—that is the path of downfall, don’t pay attention to it.
Thus there are loads of contradictory opinions as to what constitutes success? Which of these is true? The truth is none. All of these are subjective beliefs. For example, in the last example, inner happiness and outward recognition is not really a dichotomy—you can have both. That’s the beauty of the law of attraction.
Spoken with enough authority, any of the above statements can be projected as true or false. However, they are just beliefs. Beliefs are thought forms you emanate that influence your perception and ultimately the reality you attract. The examples given here depend on context and preference. Universal ways of attracting success are not dependent on context or preference.
A good success coach can give you the tools to achieve success but he or she will leave it to you to decide what you deem successful. It is not up to your success coach to decide what kind of relationship you should have or what kind of job you do. Instead, it’s their task to help you enter a relationship or career of your choosing. It is yours to dream and it is your success coach’s to apply the principles of attraction to help you fulfil that dream.
So what is success universally speaking? Success is something that was willed and then came true. In other words, success is a goal that was set and then achieved. It is as simple as any other universal truth.
The opposite of that is failure, which means there was a goal which was not reached. Humans instinctively try to achieve success and avoid failure. It’s an inherent characteristic of human beings. This characteristic may be hidden in some people, but it is there.
If you want to avoid failure, then you will also have to avoid success. Why? Because having a goal implies that it will either result in success or in failure. The most successful people are those who have failed the most. An inventor fails a thousand times before he invents something. A sportsman misses the mark a thousand times before he hits it. So if you want to be successful in life, you better get comfortable with its duality—failure. Once you get comfortable with failure, you won’t mind setting goals again and again, which increases your chances of getting more success. Success is not “avoiding” failure, it is “overcoming” failure.
This technique is very aptly taught in Fred Dodson’s Reality Creation Super Course. The analogy he uses is that the moment you decide to climb a mountain, the rocks on that mountain become obstacles. Till then, the rocks are not obstacles. They are not even worth noticing. If you experience obstacles in life, it’s actually a good sign—a sign that you are going somewhere. So don’t be shy of adversity or effort. Embrace effort and you transcend adversity.